May 2016

MATCH MAKER MATCH MAKER MAKE ME A MATCH

My Dear Friends and Readers, Three years ago, I desperately wanted to get married. More than not wanting to be alone, I wanted to be a part of a” power couple”. I wanted a partner that could understand all of my nuances and complexities. In truth, I wanted my  future imagined life with my third husband who at that time had been dead for almost three years. Three years  after

BORED TO DEATH

Dear Friends and Readers, I bore easily and I now understand why.  Boredom requires a heightened state of arousal and an inability to engage.  Arousal in psychological terms is the state of being physiologically alert, awake and sensitive and is controlled by a part of the brain called the reticular activating system. The reticular formation is a portion of the brain which  is located in the central core of the

HAPPINESS IS…

Photo taken by Johnny Slaughter, Doctor of Veterinary Medicine My Dear Friends and Readers, There comes a time when as human beings we realize that we must accept our present circumstances in order to change them. A part of the acceptance process is assessment. At the  top of my assessment list is whether or not I am happy. This begs the question how do I know when I am happy?

MY GRANDMOTHER AND ME IN PARIS

My Dear Friends and Readers, A couple of nights ago I dreamt that I was in Paris with my Grandmother and my Mother. There are two things that I distinctly retained from  this dream.  One was my  image of my elegantly dressed grandmother as she  peered out of a window from our Paris hotel. She wore a mohair coat that was golden at the shoulders and collar and then gradually

AN IDEA THAT WENT BIG- AND MADE THE FOUNDER REGRET THAT SHE HAD THE IDEA

ANNA JARVIS FOUNDER OF MOTHER’S DAY My Dear Friends and Readers, She died penniless, childless and in a Philadelphia Sanatorium. Many women celebrate the day that she created, but Jarvis spent her life trying to keep it intimate and private. She failed. Yesterday was Mother’s Day and for many it was a joyous celebration for Mothers and Motherhood. However for some women it was a sad day.  A number of

UNDERSTANDING MY CHINESE MOTHER/AND WHY LAW SCHOOL LED ME TO BE A FICTION WRITER

My Dear Friends and Readers, I cannot lie. I hate Mercury Retrograde. This is the time when the planet Mercury moves backwards. According to astrologers and others this time is a time of frustration because nothing seems to work. This morning for instance my relatively new- 5 month-old laptop refused to work. I felt like throwing it against a wall, but that certainly would ensure a failure in workability. But

IT TOOK ME A LONG TIME TO FIGURE THINGS OUT

  Dear Friends and Readers, This weekend I viewed a fascinating documentary of the life of Gloria Laura Vanderbilt.  For those of you who do not know who she is here’s a thumb nail sketch of her life. She was born to Reginald Claypoole Vanderbilt the only heir to a railroad fortune and Gloria Morgan a 19 year old. Within a year, Reginald Claypoole Vanderbilt was dead and baby Gloria