July 2016

A BELATED BIRTHDAY TO MY SON ROBERT

I never know whether you want to hear from me  on your birthday or whether I would be  a disturbance .  So, I wait until the day after or the day before to wish you Happy Birthday .  I wish that all of your dreams come true;I know  you have  the capacity  to fulfill on anything. LOVE,  Your Mother,  Brianna.

ANDROPAUSE MALE MENOPAUSE

My Dear Friends and Readers, Today I write about a subject that I have never thought about nor have I yet to experience with a male partner.  Oddly, I have read or heard little about the aging process and male sexuality. While I have seen myriad commercials about drugs that address male impotence, I have never thought about how aging effects men. What I have learned has been enlightening and

SEX AND THE OLDER WOMAN

Dear Friends and Readers, As one researcher said “women are great thinkers, but there is a downside to this because we struggle with disconnecting from our problems. This can  cause us to lose focus on our relationships and consequently, we lose our sexual appetite as well.” There is little in our American culture that sings the praises of older women. Role models  portraying older women as fit, sexy and in

WHY I SOMETIMES APPEAR ALOOF

My Dear Friends and Readers, I sit at the card table of emotions. I would like to bet all of my “chips” on something or someone or some event and yet I cannot because there sits a “governor” who controls or triggers my ability to play. That governor is called emotional detachment. It’s a condition associated with both anxiety and depression. There are two kinds of emotional detachment and in

“STRAIGHT” HAIR AND SLANTED EYES BE DAMNED!

When I was a little girl, everything that impressed me was black. First  there was the music. My parents would take me to the Carter Barron Amphitheatre which was  an open air entertainment venue on 16th Street in Washington D.C. where I grew up. Two of the most memorable performances I saw there were Johnny Mathis who I thought was the handsomest man in the world and Dianna Ross who

HOW TO HEAL THIS COUNTRY FROM RACISM?

Dear Friends and Readers, We are a nation in need of a transformation.  Three years ago, I went to hear Marianne Williamson speak. The topic of race and racism arose and here’s what Marianne Williamson did: She had all the white people in the audience stand up and apologize  as a group to every black person in the audience. Each white person apologized for their ancestors who enslaved the ancestors

DO NOT TALK BACK

There are bears in the woods, My darling, Boy. I fear your well-being. There are bears in the woods, I  warn. Dignified, you were born a Prince, No history of slavery will ever diminish. There are bears in the woods my darling, Boy. Remain bold. Oppression. Suppression. Slavery have failed. There are bears in the woods, My Darling Boy. Envious. Wronged; Wealth  Freed. But you were their Wealth. There are

BIRTHED IN REVOLUTION

My Dear Friends and Readers, It’s the Fourth of the July. I am grateful to be free and I wish that each living person define and find their freedom. As I wish everyone the right of self-expression, that expression cannot deny another’s self expression. I believe that  as human beings we have a duty to co-exist.  The alternative to co-existence is death of our entire eco-system.  Perhaps it is because